This post, obviously, isn’t that sort of posts that develop and progress quickly! Man it’s taking me time to figure out what makes me happy!
But yes! I have found “Key Two” to happiness!
Happiness Key Two: Friends & Social Life!
Ok, some of you don’t agree with me on this one, which I totally understand, people are different, some of us are social and some of us aren’t! Cool by me!
But knowing myself, yes I can survive alone and feel cool about it, but usually I feel better when I’m socially social.
I used to be way more social than now, probably when I was younger I had more patience for certain things, and later things changed for me and I gotta be the picky person when it comes to socializing. I don’t need to be social with people I don’t feel good around, and I don’t need fake social circles, if that’s the case, I prefer to be alone in most cases.
2015 thank you for the many wake up calls, this year gifted me some new friends, with whom I feel good, natural, positive and often thoughtful. Fun is always part of it, but I’m glad to finally find people with whom I can be creative, on an intellectual level. I like those people who challenge my own thoughts. I’m done with Bla Blas and empty conversations!
Socializing is not always what it looks like, at the gym I’m always surrounded by people, but that doesn’t mean I know all of them and they all know me. And socializing may take some wrong turns, that’s when they are faked, forced, or/and hold a lot of unnecessary expectations. It’s really not hard to know if you get along with certain people or not, there is either some sort of chemistry and harmony or not, there isn’t really something in between, like I enjoy my time with you but you bother me. It’s either positive or negative. Remember, you do not have to be around any person who makes you feel anything negative or uncomfortable, even if they are nice to you! lol I really mean it, if that’s the way you feel, then trust me something is wrong no matter how you try to make it look like.
Some may have certain barriers when it comes to making new friendships, thinking “Ah! It’s already too late to make new friends, and come to trust them.”, For me personally as a social entity by nature, I want you all to know that yes you can always make new friends, no one and nothing is going to stop you, except for yourselves. You can always get up and go grab yourself some new friends! But yes I know taking the first step to initiate any sort of relation isn’t the easiest part, but hey! some people are really interesting, why let them go by without trying to figure them out closely?! Some of these “interesting people” may mistakenly give us some sort of attitude or vibe that pushes us away or make us feel unwelcome, but feeling that way may not be right, sometimes they feel the same about us, and that’s why they may not want to make the first step.
Go back to your old friends, those you gained in school and uni/college days, those are actually the ones you know for real.
I’m not discussing love relations here, this time I’m talking pure/awesome friendships.
Healthy, balanced and mature friendships are a crucial and a very important key to happiness for me, I just have to do it wisely to stay happy and positive!