This post, obviously, isn’t that sort of posts that develop and progress quickly! Man it’s taking me time to figure out what makes me happy!
But yes! I have found “Key Two” to happiness!
Happiness Key Two: Friends & Social Life!
Ok, some of you don’t agree with me on this one, which I totally understand, people are different, some of us are social and some of us aren’t! Cool by me!
But knowing myself, yes I can survive alone and feel cool about it, but usually I feel better when I’m socially social.
I used to be way more social than now, probably when I was younger I had more patience for certain things, and later things changed for me and I gotta be the picky person when it comes to socializing. I don’t need to be social with people I don’t feel good around, and I don’t need fake social circles, if that’s the case, I prefer to be alone in most cases.
2015 thank you for the many wake up calls, this year gifted me some new friends, with whom I feel good, natural, positive and often thoughtful. Fun is always part of it, but I’m glad to finally find people with whom I can be creative, on an intellectual level. I like those people who challenge my own thoughts. I’m done with Bla Blas and empty conversations!
Socializing is not always what it looks like, at the gym I’m always surrounded by people, but that doesn’t mean I know all of them and they all know me. And socializing may take some wrong turns, that’s when they are faked, forced, or/and hold a lot of unnecessary expectations. It’s really not hard to know if you get along with certain people or not, there is either some sort of chemistry and harmony or not, there isn’t really something in between, like I enjoy my time with you but you bother me. It’s either positive or negative. Remember, you do not have to be around any person who makes you feel anything negative or uncomfortable, even if they are nice to you! lol I really mean it, if that’s the way you feel, then trust me something is wrong no matter how you try to make it look like.
Some may have certain barriers when it comes to making new friendships, thinking “Ah! It’s already too late to make new friends, and come to trust them.”, For me personally as a social entity by nature, I want you all to know that yes you can always make new friends, no one and nothing is going to stop you, except for yourselves. You can always get up and go grab yourself some new friends! But yes I know taking the first step to initiate any sort of relation isn’t the easiest part, but hey! some people are really interesting, why let them go by without trying to figure them out closely?! Some of these “interesting people” may mistakenly give us some sort of attitude or vibe that pushes us away or make us feel unwelcome, but feeling that way may not be right, sometimes they feel the same about us, and that’s why they may not want to make the first step.
Go back to your old friends, those you gained in school and uni/college days, those are actually the ones you know for real.
I’m not discussing love relations here, this time I’m talking pure/awesome friendships.
Healthy, balanced and mature friendships are a crucial and a very important key to happiness for me, I just have to do it wisely to stay happy and positive!
It is instantly changing, the way we understand happiness, the way we define it and they way we find it. It can’t be always the same; we live, we grow, we go through experiences, we get distracted and we forget the reasons and the motivations. Our lives are always changing, whether we notice that or not. The road to happiness, pretty much looks like a maze, we often get lost looking for it, but if we really want to find it, we definitely will.
Back in 2012 I went through some experiences, that made me sit and really think and wonder; what makes me actually happy. I asked myself the same question for months, and I had different answers. Every time I found an answer, I questioned it: Are you real? Do you last for a good long time? Do you give me a good feeling for a long period of time? Or are you just playing with me, being cool and playful now? Do you when I remember you ignite a fire inside me, each and every time? Or just this one time?
After too many days of thinking, I finally found Three Keys Of Happiness for me, which I will share with you later, remember, back in 2012. Time passed and I went through new experiences, mostly bad ones in 2014, which brought me down big time, made me negative, depressed, aggressive, unsatisfied, sad and lonely, even when surrounded by lots of people. 2014 all in all was bad, was really awful, and the negativity of it dragged itself through me towards 2015, and seeing months passing by, and the 1st quarterly of the year over, it freaked me out, and I though to myself: “Aha, no more 2014 in my life! I need 2012’s attitude back!” But do you think this happened planned? Never! Such things happen “Accidentally”
Happiness Key One: Success, Achievement And Sense Of Fulfillment
Yes, to feel happy you gotta achieve something, sometimes raise your bar up high and achieve something big, but hey! Sometimes you can’t, so how about a Small/Medium size achievement?
How do we do that? Set a goal, say a short term one, something you can achieve in a month or two. Work on it, get busy, and wait for it to grow, harvest it when it’s ready!
Sometimes, we get too busy trying to achieve something, that we don’t notice that we did already, thinking: “Oh No! Not yet, not that soon, not that way!”, but hey! What if you and your achievement got noticed, pointed out and praised? Won’t that make you happier than you praising yourself? So please, do it, and do it right, criticize yourself till you think it’s perfect, but when somebody comes and says “Oh wow! You have done all that?”, please stop, and take a second and give yourself some applause! Others noticing your efforts when you least expect it, is an achievement by itself!
Early 2014 I was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis, an Auto-Immune disease that attacks small joints; like in hands, feet and spinal cord. But now I highly doubt it’s RA, maybe just Arthritis. Anyway, that health issue didn’t allow me to work out or teach my classes for a few months, pain was unbearable, I slept and woke up with pain, stiffness and the feeling of me being too damn old for life! Immobility is a scary thing. Which made me depressed, lazy and demotivated, so I ate a lot ALL DAY, ALL NIGHT! KATIA WTF! lol
Time passed by, and I was taking my medications as I should have, I did make sure to swim, if not daily then day after day, but still that wasn’t sufficient, but things started getting better over time. Teaching some classes became an option, and later more and more and back to cardio, but my laziness became habitual.
2015 I decided it’s time to stop being lazy, it’s time to lose weight before summer time comes and it’s time to bring my fitness level back, at least, or if possible jump over a higher wall, why not increase my fitness level? Nothing can stop me now, my joints are doing well, thank God!
And guess what? It all started when I started calorie-counting! Did I reach my goal? Mine??? No, not yet, but hey! People already noticed my appearance, my fitness level and the elevated energy in my classes!
Bottom line, get up, set a goal and start working on it! I already gave you The First Key Of Happiness, don’t waste no more time!